Shifting your thought process
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Everybody’s brain right now is so focused on looking for threats. It’s like, “where’s the next bad thing going to come from?” Because we’re so used to that over what we went through in 2020. I mean, murder hornets for crying out loud, you can’t make that up, right? So our brains are used to scanning for threats like, “where’s the next hit coming from?”
We are not paying attention to the
We’re not paying attention to when someone says “thank you,” or “hey that went well.” And so one of the tips that I recommend to students and to clients and anyone is just to make one or two notes about what went well today — a success that I had. Because our brains are not tuned into that stuff. So paying attention to the good stuff is one way to help not only just avoid burnout at work, but also to kind of stabilize yourself a little bit.
There is a difference between a threat and a challenge
Another recommendation that I have that I think is going to carry people through to the next couple of months here as we transition slowly out of what’s called the disillusionment phase and into reconstruction and recovery, is focusing on shifting our thinking from a threat to a challenge. The disaster has been a threat. And there’s only three things you can do when you’re confronted with the threat, you can run, hide or fight.
When you are confronted with a challenge, you can pick it apart and overcome it.
So we owe it to ourselves and to our kids to try and get our bodies and our brains to respond to all of these changes as challenges to be overcome rather than threats to respond to. And if we can do that, we’re going to feel a lot better.
Sometimes its more than enough to just sit and listen.
People told me grief comes in waves, they lied.
– BRIANNA W.