When you’re doing it, kind of a self inventory is when am I having a hard time when I’m getting ready to lose it? And so when you think about it that way, so is it your teenager that’s doing that? Is it your spouse? Is it your co worker? Is it workload?

When am I really struggling? And so when you inventory, when you’re really struggling, and then you can say, when you’re not in this heightened state, you can say to yourself, what’s something that I could do right then. And sometimes things that people come up with is they’re going to menu plans, and they’re like, what are we going to do this week for food? I’m going to write out the grocery list of what I need to go get that engages your brain. Some people will say I’m going to write down all the words to the song because I really music, just, like, puts me where I need to be.

And so you’re going to force your brain to think about all the words to the phone, which is going to engage your brain, which puts blood technical term in your prefrontal cortex. But the idea behind that is you just want to get blood into your thinking brain because it allows you to problem solve. And the key is you want to problem solve when you’re not in that heightened state. So if you can go through those times of when my teenager does this rose their eyes at me, what is something that I can do right then?

And so doing that inventory, I think would be really helpful.